“How do you remove toxic people from your life if that person is family?” That particular question was raised by someone I knew in high school. Let’s call him Alex.
According to one saying, “blood is thicker than water.” Which means to say that you have strong ties with your kin compared to strangers. However, there are also instances wherein that is not the case; or if you are still close, you were doing that to avoid conflict within the family. What happens when that person becomes toxic in your life? Should you still keep in contact with them? How’d you remove them from your life? Those questions can really be tough to answer especially if you love them dearly.
When he asked for my advice, I inquired about the story prior to answering his queries. His half-brother was jeopardizing his life by dragging him into a wayward life. He was 6 years younger than his brother whom he idolized. But because of this person, he’s always beat up in fights. Note that he wasn’t a good fighter and he was forced to hangout with the wrong crowd. His parents threatened to call the police if this doesn’t stop. Little did they know who the bad influence was in Alex’s life. He only realized that this has got to stop after a week of being released from the hospital.
So here’s a piece of my mind: when a person becomes toxic, we should learn to distance ourselves for our own safety and sanity. This could mean any of the following: putting physical distance like going away, cutting contacts or not letting the negativity affect us mentally, psychologically and emotionally. In Alex’s case since they’re living in the same house he should learn how to say “no” and avoid hamging out his brother. He shouldn’t let his brother’s guilt trip change his mind. Being firm with his decision is of the utmost importance.
Toxic people will be rendered powerless the moment you take full control of your life. This meant that although they’re related to you, their dramas shouldn’t affect you psychologically or how you should lead your life. You should start by setting up healthy bounderies in your relationship while maintaining a degree of respect to the other. By doing so, you’ll see a significant change in your life.
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